Premarital Counseling:Focusing on Healthy Boundaries and Establishing Right Priorities
Before you walk down the aisle, it is important to discuss practical matters for daily living as well as long term goals as a couple. Many times people believe they know each other inside and out and do not see the need for premarital help. By addressing beliefs on topics such as finances, daily household duties, possible vacation destinations, where to spend the holidays among other subjects, couples can start marriage right. It is also important to learn how to effectively communicate in the manner that says "I love you" to each other. It's easy to give love the way you want to receive it: the challenge is to give love the way your future spouse wants to receive it. It is the small, everyday things couples do to nurture the relationship that brings lasting fulfillment. On the flip side, those nonverbal signals that demean each other; feelings that are hurt and left to fester become the makings of a breakdown in mutual love and affection. The more topics you can bring out into the open before marriage, the easier it will be to make decisions together in unity and harmony.
Premarital Counseling with Nancy Pina will show you how to:
How can we start our marriage off right?
My Premarital Counseling package provides you a four-session assessment of the relationship, with a full evaluation prepared especially for you. The four-session assessment includes one session with both members, two individual sessions, and a final session for a review of the assessment.
If you desire, I can work with you after your assessment, engaging in premarital counseling to strengthen the relationship prior to your marriage. Learning healthy relationship skills such as effective communication and conflict resolution are key factors in maintaining a long, fulfilling marriage.
Goals we will develop together include:
A grateful attitude toward each other.No one likes to live with a critic, a nag or someone with a negative attitude. Gratitude brings life into perspective.
Nurturing your friendship. Becoming interested in what your spouse-to-be is passionate about in life keeps the connection alive. One of the best parts about marriage is the additional layer of friendship; introducing each other to new life realms, life experiences and events, creating precious moments together.
Proper boundaries during conflict. Staying focused on the issue at hand and not attacking one another personally is a learned relationship skill which takes mindfulness. Too many hurtful words does negatively affect a marriage. The key isn't avoidance of conflict, but developing a loving manner to hear each other's point of view and reach a solution.
Stress management. Having a bad day at the office is not an excuse for taking out frustrations on your spouse. Couples in a fulfilling marriage learn to communicate the troubles of the day to their spouse instead of letting their spouse believe they are he source of the frustration.
If you are like many of my clients, you appreciate the value of personalized counseling. Sessions are generally conducted in person or by video chat in one hour sessions. Together, we can create a proactive plan to reach the life and marriage goals you have in your heart.
I will provide you with a four-session assessment of the relationship, with a full evaluation prepared especially for you. The four-session assessment includes one session with both members, two individual sessions, and a final session for a review of the assessment.
After your evaluation, you may choose to continue couples counseling, at which time we will discuss relationship goals.