Shared Faith Matters


Diversity in faith does not lead to harmony in love.

Shared faith is the most important foundation of your relationship and should be the primary factor you explore especially during the dating stage. You can eliminate much heartbreak if you discuss this crucial topic upfront instead of waiting until you are so emotionally involved with someone who believes something completely different from what you believe. Recent research concludes that interfaith marriage rate is 42% in the U.S. The findings also reveal the growing number of interfaith couples are unaware of what they will face with these polar spiritual views. They marry without thinking through the practical implications of their religious differences. The rationalization leads to the assumption that because the loved one is a decent individual, they will not experience difficulties being married to someone of another faith. Because our culture dictates tolerance at all costs, many believe differences are to be embraced. However, when it is your marriage, you will find what you believe and practice does matter because it is part of your identity.


Scripture teaches that Christians are not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers because of the compromises the believer will make to keep the relationship together.


Why should shared faith be the first quality a single woman looks for in a man?


  • Similar life outlook. The benefits include a similar fundamentals of life priorities and goals, morals and values to build a friendship and create strong intimacy within the relationship. With shared faith, you will have a common focus in your spirituality, which generally leads to mutual growth and understanding.

  • Conversion is unnecessary. Another main benefit includes the absence of the pressure to convert your significant other. It is within our human nature to want those we love to share our ideology. It can be difficult to maintain one's faith if your future spouse is uninterested or non-supportive. It is easy to compromise your standards which can easily lead to abandonment of one's faith because you want to keep the peace.

  • What are the challenges of dating someone outside your beliefs?


  • Raising Children. While challenges may be minimal during dating, they will expand as the relationship progresses toward commitment and perhaps marriage. Within marriage, the main issue will arise after a child is born because each person will want to teach their particular doctrine. Although the intensions are noble, raising children with two different faiths leads to confusion. The child does not know if Mom's truth is right or if Dad's truth is right. Unfortunately, children can reject both belief systems and become agnostic or even atheist.

  • Family Traditions. Another ongoing strain centers on family traditions and celebrations as those do provide a sense of unity.

  • How does faith enhance a long term relationship?


  • Life anchor. Harmony in faith as a couple provides an anchor for your shared life. When a crisis or tragedy occurs, encouragement from your significant other can provide a reminder of the hope available through your shared faith.

  • Solidifies bond. Additionally, the closeness within the relationship increases as you share spiritual growth with one another. Without that connection, faith becomes a topic the couple avoids, leading to loneliness. It is heartbreaking not to share your identity with the person closest to you because of their disinterest. A spouse who is unconnected with you and unwilling to share this vital aspect of who you are robs you of that oneness.


  • Do not minimize your spiritual growth and its vitalness in your life. There is nothing wrong with maintaining your standards and beliefs because with the right person, you will be able to share mutual faith and growth on a beautifully solid foundation that you can then teach your faith heritage with the next generation.


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    Posted by Right Relationships on Friday, July 11, 2014