Category Archives: Advice

Facing relationship challenges can be very isolating. Read how other individuals reached out to Nancy and the advice she suggested to resolve those issues.

Attracted To Co-Worker

Workplace romances are very risky, even under the best circumstances. If the relationship does not work out, one person more than likely will lose their job. You can meet eligible people outside your work environment. Lakeisha writes: Dear Nancy, I … Continue reading

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Do Relationship Patterns Repeat?

The best blessing you can give yourself after divorce is to work through the reasons why the marriage did not work out. The initial response many times is to regain what was lost and find another relationship. What happens however … Continue reading

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Closing Wrong Doors in Love

Marriage and committed relationships require mutual nurturance. Without attention, they do suffer and the relationship changes and stops growing. When emotional needs are not being met and the demands of daily family life wear you down, the answer is never … Continue reading

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Lonely in Marriage

Marriage is worth the time and effort to save and the solution, no matter how dire things appear to be is not found outside the relationship. See how God’s grace protected Martin from making a huge mistake. Martin Writes: I … Continue reading

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Fear of Commitment

Many people marry for the wrong reasons and live to regret it. No matter what the decision you are making in life or love, if you do not have peace within your heart, it is the wrong way. There are … Continue reading

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Where’s Her Femininity?

Keeping silent in a relationship about the manner in which you want to receive love does not work. It is important to overcome any fear of rocking the boat in love and approach such matters not defensively, but with tenderness … Continue reading

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Marriage Plans

Getting ahead of God’s plan for marriage does have serious and lasting consequences. The good news is that He is a God of many chances to get on the correct path. Once you take the time to receive wise counsel … Continue reading

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Can I Get Her Back?

The disservice we do to one another by not being honest during a breakup generally prolongs the inevitably heartbreak. When one breaks up with the buffer of “let’s be friends,” that door only opens a window of hope for the … Continue reading

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Is It Just Friendship?

It is vital that one guards the heart in relationship matters. It is very important to be mindful of who you allow in your inner circle and have set, appropriate boundaries for those you interact with professionally. It should not … Continue reading

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Long Distance Love is Now Local

The good news about going from a long distance relationship to being in the same area is experiencing that necessary next step in love. There will be an adjustment period as you both get settled into a new routine and … Continue reading

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Should I Go With Money Guy?

What are the standards you place on love? Are you looking for the right person based on godly principles outlined in the Bible or are you reacting out of your current circumstances and needs? It is vital that you take … Continue reading

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Our Friendship Changed

Friendships do evolve depending on our life stages. It is important to be open to change and keep a proper perspective. There are friendships which last for lifetimes and those that are only for a season. It is the wise … Continue reading

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We Distrust Each Other

A relationship not based on the principles of the scripture will always reap a negative consequence. God offers each of us ¬†opportunities to walk in His ways at any point in life. However, He does not take away the consequences … Continue reading

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No Interest in Spouse

Marriage is a covenant and gift from the Lord. People do not “fall” out of love; they choose behaviors towards each other which allows for the disintegration of its foundation. The good news is that it only takes one person … Continue reading

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Out of Control Kids

Who you allow in your inner circle will influence your thoughts and behavior. It is so vital that a single parent is mindful of the moral well being of their children and does not marry one who will corrupt the … Continue reading

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He Feels Restricted

In relationships, it is important to really hear what the other person says they need from you. Many times one is so concerned and bent on getting their way, regardless of the emotional costs that “winning” leaves the relationship in … Continue reading

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Should I Wait?

Many people date individuals who do not share their relationship goals. It is tempting to hang in there, in the hopes that person will somehow see what a great catch you are and decide to pursue a committed relationship. The … Continue reading

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In-Law Drama

Words spoken over us by our parents do matter, regardless of one’s age. It is important to honor parents with the respect they deserve as an authority figure, but it is also just as vital to guard one’s heart. You … Continue reading

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Signals for Reunion?

Many times when one continues seeing a former love, the temptation is to see hope that really is not there. It is so easy to project a happier ending and grasp onto bits and pieces of conversations which seem to … Continue reading

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Is Friendship without Benefits Possible?

When a relationship does not work out, many times couples want to stay in contact because it is familiar territory. The unknown, even though it is full of positive possibilities can seem less inviting than the past with its problems … Continue reading

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Jealous of In-Law

Many times jealousy is not really against the person, but against the bond shared with the loved one. We want that interaction in our relationship or want it to be exclusive. The only way to work through negative feelings of … Continue reading

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I Don’t Trust Him

The core issue which needs to be healed is hidden in the layers of intimate relationships. The danger is getting so caught up in the details of what the other person did or did not do, that the primary mindset … Continue reading

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Does No Really Mean No?

When one summons the courage to be vulnerable to another, only to be faced with rejection, the initial response many times is figuring out how to change their mind. The phrase, it is better to love and loss than not … Continue reading

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Friendship Importance in Love

Strong physical attraction is not ample reason to get involved romantically. You will be attracted to the one you eventually marry, but the most important key elements include a solid friendship, based on a strong foundation of mutual faith, trust … Continue reading

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Not Ready for Marriage

Marriage is a decision which should not be taken lightly. Many people fall in love with the idea of a wedding, but have not given any true thought to marriage and the commitment it takes to make that union work. … Continue reading

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Addiction Reemerged

If one does not work through the core reasons why an addictive behavior presented itself, more than likely it will come out in another manner. True and lasting healing is possible when one takes the initiative to be transformed by … Continue reading

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Virtual Relationship Deadend

Virtual relationships are potential traps for love. If you are hiding from being vulnerable in person, you may tend to gravitate towards these “relationships” which are meaningless. If there is not a possibility of being together in person to truly … Continue reading

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Misreading Signals

If you do not have a clear picture of the type of person you want to date and have a relationship with, you will be subject to focusing on physical attraction. That is a poor way to date and can … Continue reading

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She’s Not Available

Someone who is married or separated is absolutely not available for a relationship. It is important not to become involved emotionally or physically with these individuals, no matter how strong the attraction because it will only lead to heartbreak and … Continue reading

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Engaged, But Lonely

Marriage is not a commitment to be taken lightly nor is it one to approach as temporary. Many people think if the relationship doesn’t unfold according to one’s personal ideal of love, then there is always the escape hatch of … Continue reading

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His Manipulative Mother

Most people use manipulation to get their way because they learned that pushing emotional buttons works. The key to breaking this pattern in a relationship is to set proper boundaries and not cave into those demands. Cari Asks Nancy: My … Continue reading

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Family Battles

Lack of forgiveness is not confined to you and the other person. It does affect the lives of those you love and those who are close to you. It wrecks havoc over your emotions, health and spiritual well being. You … Continue reading

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Drama is Not Love

Many people equate drama, fighting and jealous behavior as signs of love. They assume steady emotions are boring. Drama is not the will of God for love and one must look to the example of Jesus who taught the importance … Continue reading

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We Fight Too Much

The answer to conflict many times is not finding another person to date. Often the same issues are present in new relationships eventually and then the cycle is repeated. Bringing another person into your life while currently involved in a … Continue reading

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Do I Support Her Whole Family?

Many materially successful people I have coached throughout the years have a fear that those they love will only want them for the type of life their money can provide. It is important to work through this spiritual battle as … Continue reading

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Long Distance Love Fighting

The right person will treat you with the love, honor and respect you deserve. If you are in a relationship where this is not the case and do not experience a consistency in that connection, it is not God’s best … Continue reading

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I Love Two Men

If you are fearful of vulnerability, you may throw a wrench into a currently good relationship to avoid that intimacy. Many people believe that when their loved ones get to really know who they are, that other person will not … Continue reading

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Worried About the Other Woman

Affairs, emotional and physical are damaging not only to the relationship, but also opens the mind to an area which was never meant to be explored. The consequences of one’s actions are not removed, even after one has turned from … Continue reading

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I Feel Guilty

It is important to guard your heart, especially in close relationships. Parental ties that have become unhealthy emotionally need proper boundaries. You deserve to pursue your life and can do so without being disrespectful to a parent who needs professional … Continue reading

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Why Can’t He Participate?

Remarriage to the right person even in the best circumstances can have a few minor bumps along the way. The important factor is maintaining open and clear communication with each other and one’s children to avoid assumptions and hurt feelings. … Continue reading

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Is She Using Me?

Emotional affairs can easily escalate to physical affairs, especially between a single person and married person. Flirting with a friendship which is more intimate than is appropriate only opens a door which can lead to a regrettable decision. A person … Continue reading

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I Miss His Love

Living together has become an accepted relationship standard. The truth is that it leads to so much internal pain and destruction. God created marriage so a man and woman could form a covenant with each other. Without the official ceremony … Continue reading

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Will He Commit?

A person who is separated is not available for a committed relationship leading to marriage. No matter what excuse that person gives you for not divorcing, it is up to you to resist getting involved emotionally and intimately with this … Continue reading

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Do I Really Love Him?

Marrying out of fear is always the wrong choice for love. Not every person finds the right one early in life. It is better to wait for that moment than to settle for someone who is marriage material, but is … Continue reading

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Mom Hates In-Laws

Dependency on a child to supply one’s emotional needs exclusively can potentially bring powerful emotions of jealousy to the surface when they marry. One’s spouse and nurturing that relationship is always the top priority as the Bible clearly states one … Continue reading

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Why Am I So Popular Now?

Social networking websites can be great tools to keep in touch with those you love, but as with most conveniences, there can be negative byproducts. The internet makes is very easy to get entangled in connections you later will wish … Continue reading

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Does She Really Love Me?

Reunited after a breakup many times does not work out because one person does not have the right intention. Make sure that the next time around is mutually desired with the goal of turning away from former ways of relating … Continue reading

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He’s Not So Innocent

If you have been in a relationship where the person is rushing for a commitment, please view this push as a red flag. Many times the other person is hiding something very significant which will impact a long term commitment … Continue reading

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She Looks Like His Mother Now

It is critical to go into love with your eyes open to potential red flags. Many times, people turn away from behaviors their significant other displays out of fear of losing that person’s love. Ignoring obvious signs will not make … Continue reading

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Family Closeness

If you desire close relationships with your extended family members, it is up to you to take the initiative. Samantha Asks Nancy: My siblings and I never hear from my grandmother unless she’s in town, and then it’s usually for … Continue reading

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