A person who is separated is not available for a committed relationship leading to marriage. No matter what excuse that person gives you for not divorcing, it is up to you to resist getting involved emotionally and intimately with this type of individual. This road only leads to heartbreak and pain.
Karen Asks Nancy:
“I’ve been with my boyfriend of 16 months he asked me to marry him 6 months ago, and recently moved in. The issue is he still has not produced a ring. While living with me, he has not contributed to household bills. Sometimes buy groceries or puts fuel in my car. He is very supportive of me and my children, even coming to parent’s evening. I’m worried he’s not ready to commit. He is separated from his ex and for the last three years, no sign of divorce. He started proceedings, but I’m unsure what happened. I’m worried I’m hanging on to him as I’ve been single a long time. We do have a special relationship and I’m really close to him. We talk like good friends.”
This man is not available for marriage because he is still married. He has not contributed to your household because he already has one with his wife. Even though he has been living with you for six months, he is still not able to commit to you and your children. I encourage you to break off this non-relationship and do not fear that God will not bring you the desires of your heart. He will bless your life with love when you are faithful to Him, follow His precepts and are obedient to His word. I encourage you to start attending church on a regular basis and hear the word of God. You need to know what is the right path for life and stay off this fear based road which will not lead to lasting love.