Living together has become an accepted relationship standard. The truth is that it leads to so much internal pain and destruction. God created marriage so a man and woman could form a covenant with each other. Without the official ceremony and declaration of the union, a covenant is not binding and the relationship always has the escape option.
Orla Asks Nancy:
“I just broke up with my fiance of 15 years and we have an 11 year old son. He has come home a few times to see his son. I’m still in love with him and am finding it hard to move on. I really feel lonely and the thought of being a single parent makes me miss him more. I know he wasn’t good for me, but I find myself being intimate with him when he comes over to visit our son. Why is he using me? Why am I so afraid?
One of the terrible part about living together is the ending. For years this man had all the benefits of marriage, but none of the responsibilities of caring for you and for your son together. The key to a new life, full of the blessing of God is to turn away from the temptation to give into your loneliness. Your son does need a relationship with his father, but you do not, especially not an intimate one. I encourage you to arrange to have a friend or family member with you when he wants to spend time with your son. You need to build your inner strength and confidence of who you are in the Lord so you can withstand these temptations. It is a spiritual battle that you can win when you trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not rely on your own strength. When you start reading the Bible, you will find promise after promise that says who you are as a child of God. It is those words you need to build in your heart and replace those mindsets which say you only deserve this type of relationship. God will turn all this around to work for your good, but you must first turn towards His face and seek right standing with Him.