Is She Using Me?

Emotional affairs can easily escalate to physical affairs, especially between a single person and married person. Flirting with a friendship which is more intimate than is appropriate only opens a door which can lead to a regrettable decision. A person who is already married or separated is not an option for anyone who is single. These individuals are searching for the validation and connection they are not receiving from their spouses and it is simply wrong and not God’s will that you take that bait.

Richard Asks Nancy:

I’m in love with my best friend and she is in love with me but she is married with kids and her husband cheats on her and her kids only care about themselves. I know its a bad idea to fall for a married woman but we truly love each other. She says she wants to try to work it out with her husband and does not want to leave her kids.But he still cheats on her and her kids are only using her she is miserable and depressed.She said if it doesn’t work out with her husband she said she would like to be with me but she said for me not to wait for her. I don’t know what to do and I hate seeing her depressed all the time. Is she just using me? I don’t know I am confused.

Nancy’s Advice:

I understand that this relationship may feel right when you are together, however, regardless of her relationship with her husband, she is absolutely not available to you. It is a very bad idea to get involved with a married or even separated person primarily because God’s hand is not in this union.

I encourage you to stop seeing her romantically and as a friend and allow her to get her marriage on track. She is using your love and concern as a crutch emotionally, which does prevent her from having that connection with her spouse. She has told you not to wait for her and I strongly encourage you to follow that advice. It is very easy in this situation to hear the things which sound like hope for the future, but I guarantee that if you cling to that false hope, you will be the one whose heart is broken in the end.

Richard, you deserve a woman who is free to love you and vice versa, a woman who will treat you with the love, honor and respect you deserve. God will bless you with the right woman when you take the step of faith and obedience and trust that He will give you the dream and desires for love you have in your heart.

About Nancy Pina

Nancy Pina is a relationship expert, author and coach with a passion to show how every individual can achieve relationship success. Her message of emotional healing based on Christian values has blessed countless individuals. Nancy has been featured in numerous national magazines including: Runner’s World, Esquire, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan and Essence. She is a frequent guest on television and radio shows and has appeared on The Today Show, Fox News and Daystar Houston.
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