Lack of forgiveness is not confined to you and the other person. It does affect the lives of those you love and those who are close to you. It wrecks havoc over your emotions, health and spiritual well being. You cannot have a good relationship with any person or with the Lord when you hold tight to bitterness, anger and hatred.
Peter Asks Nancy:
My wife and her sister do not get along, to the point that my wife refuses to be in the same room with her. I have a class reunion coming up, and her sister is in my class.
Because we’re not sure if she will show up, my wife has said she will attend — but she’ll leave if her sister arrives. Now she says she’ll be upset with me if I don’t leave with her. I don’t get along with her sister either, but I’d like the chance to catch up with other classmates. My wife feels my not leaving with her would demonstrate a lack of support. I don’t want my wife’s antipathy toward her sister to cause me to be penalized. What to do?
It is important that you do not miss out on life events because your wife and sister will not take the steps toward forgiveness. Ultimately, for peace to happen, she must take the step of faith and forgive whatever grievances she has towards her sister. Without a doubt, her health will be affected by allowing this seed of anger, resentment and hatred to take root in her heart. That is the larger picture. In the short term, this is your reunion and I urge you to communicate your love and support to your wife and your desire for her to share in this celebration with you. Let her know that you acknowledge her feelings towards her sister, but desire to catch up with old friends. This is not a matter of choosing your sister-in-law over your wife as she does not even factor in why you are attending this event. Life is much too short to hold tightly to perceived wrongs and I strongly recommend that your wife seek spiritual counseling in this matter.