Many people equate drama, fighting and jealous behavior as signs of love. They assume steady emotions are boring. Drama is not the will of God for love and one must look to the example of Jesus who taught the importance of peace that only He can provide. Peace must be present for longevity.
Lori Asks Nancy:
I have an amazing boyfriend but I’m not happy. The problem is I’m bored. I have had only one technical boyfriend besides the one I have now. I had two “flings” where I got involved with guys without an official or physical relationship. I know most women would kill for a boyfriend like mine who buys them things and tells them they’re beautiful. However, I want a relationship with ups and downs — drama and fighting. Am I crazy to want to date other people, or is this normal?
It is important figure out why you are associating drama with love. It is the furtherest thing from what will sustain an emotionally healthy, long lasting and loving relationship. Usually, the model you grew up with is the indicator of what you will find “normal” in love. I can assure you that until you work through this true barrier to love, you will sabotage this current relationship with drama and fighting and eventually he will break up with you. However, it is in your power to change your thinking and mindset so you do not have this generational pattern carry over. I know that many relationships are filled with episodes of up and downs, jealous behavior and fighting. This turmoil is not healthy and does not create an environment where you can grow intimately with the man you love. All it does is creates an atmosphere of waiting for the next fight to happen. This is a fear driven relationship and one that does not lead to fulfillment and peace. Society gives the message that drama is love and my word to you is to reject that falsehood.