If you do not have a clear picture of the type of person you want to date and have a relationship with, you will be subject to focusing on physical attraction. That is a poor way to date and can easily lead to relationship patterns that are hard to break.
Sophie Asks Nancy:
“I met an older man (11 years older; I’m 23) at work three months ago. I developed feelings for him and he acted like he felt the same. I caught him staring/smiling at me.
He always came over to see and talk to me, but since I left the company a month ago, he’s not spoken to me very much and I haven’t seen him. I told him I liked him and he hasn’t responded. The fact that he’s ignoring me is really bothering me.”
This man is probably a player. Because you are not conveniently located, he more than likely has moved on to another woman. Please do not allow your mind to fixate on this individual. The age difference is another factor I suggest you explore. Many relationships can and do work with this gap, but most of them are looking for a security that should not come from another individual.
It is important to ask yourself what you are seeking in love and have a very clear picture of the qualities and character that individual will possess. Then you will not be at the mercy of your feelings and emotions. You want to lead by the principles God places in His Word for love and relationships more than physical attraction. When you do that and learn to rely on Jesus to fulfill the desires of your heart, you will be blessed in this area.