Virtual relationships are potential traps for love. If you are hiding from being vulnerable in person, you may tend to gravitate towards these “relationships” which are meaningless. If there is not a possibility of being together in person to truly build a foundation for love, this type of communication only puts off the necessary spiritual and emotional work you need to do.
Lauren Asks Nancy:
“I have been talking to this guy for a year and it seems he has an issue moving forward with me. He claims he really likes me and wants to be friends. However, he’s never made an effort to spend time with me. I talked to him about it and now he claims he doesn’t want me to move on, but needs sometime to think. He says he’s attracted to the person I am. He agrees to finish our conversation when he calls back, but then I don’t hear from him for a month. He recently called, I ignored it then called back a day later. It’s been a week and he hasn’t called back.”
This is certainly not any type of relationship and does not have a future. The question you need to pose is why you have given a year of your life to a person who is unavailable. When you take the time to examine your role in this situation and get to the core reasons why you given this person power over you, life will indeed move forward. It is tempting in this age of internet connection and dating to step over those healthy boundaries. Forming relationships in your mind which do not resemble what God had in mind for us not to be alone is not the way to true and lasting love. Fulfilling the desires of your heart can be a reality if you are willing to be vulnerable and reach out to Jesus for understanding of your past, releasing the barriers you formed and restoration of a biblical, emotionally healthy outlook towards love.