Strong physical attraction is not ample reason to get involved romantically. You will be attracted to the one you eventually marry, but the most important key elements include a solid friendship, based on a strong foundation of mutual faith, trust and respect.
Anthony Asks Nancy:
“I have been dating this woman for five months, but she always is texting her guy friends from her old town. She seems to enjoy herself better when she texts her old friends than when she texts me. She says they’re only friends, but she has more fun with them than with me. What should I do?”
If your relationship is based on a foundation of physical attraction, friendship becomes difficult to establish. I encourage you to have a conversation with her about what she finds attractive in her friendships. To have her as your friend, you must first be friendly to her. Sounds basic, but I find that those who do not have a friendship in love often do not treat each other as confidants.
It is important to establish mutual trust so you can build on this important component of love. If the only response you have to her friendships is jealousy, the relationship will eventually end.
Look at this opportunity to grow in your love for her, not as an opening to slip into self pity and worry. If your relationship cannot evolve out of this stage, you will have this important lesson in life not to base love solely on physical attraction.