When one summons the courage to be vulnerable to another, only to be faced with rejection, the initial response many times is figuring out how to change their mind. The phrase, it is better to love and loss than not to love at all is rich in truth. Not every person you are attracted to will reciprocate, but not saying anything is far worse than the willingness to express your feelings to another.
Mel Asks Nancy:
“I am attracted to this woman with whom I have been friendly with for the past three months. I want to have her as my girlfriend. She says that she is not interested in having relationship with anyone and wants to focus on her career. I am planning to ask her next week to be my girlfriend even though I know she will say no. I really don’t want to loose her. How can I make her change her mind?”
Many times we do not like to hear what the other person has already expressed regarding love. The rejection feels overwhelming and one’s general response is to attempt to convince that person they are wrong about their decision.
I encourage you to respect what she has said regarding the pursuit of her career and do not push her. It can be tempting to stay friendly after being rejected, in the hopes that the other person will feel differently. This is not a good path because this person has already told you she does not want a relationship.
I encourage you to move forward with your life so you can attract a woman will love you and want to share life with you.