Many times jealousy is not really against the person, but against the bond shared with the loved one. We want that interaction in our relationship or want it to be exclusive. The only way to work through negative feelings of jealousy is to bring those out into the open so they cannot take root in the heart and form a spirit of bitterness.
Shelly Asks Nancy:
“My husband seems to be overly friendly with my brother-in-law’s wife whom I don’t like. I get irritated when he does this and feel jealous. I have talked to my husband but he said that I am overreacting as they have been friends for a long time, prior to our marriage. I know that my husband is not wrong, but still feel jealous. I get angry and I don’t want to be. How can I control my jealousy?”
It is important not to take the bait of jealousy and open that door for fear and suspicion to create a barrier to the love you have with your husband. The question I encourage you to ask yourself is why you believe those you love will eventually cheat on you. Anytime you have an overreaction to something that should not signal warning bells is an alert to explore the underlining issue. God does place these warning signs in our soul so we can be mindful of the boundaries the Lord has set in place. However, it is important that you look at the larger picture and see if you are exaggerating the interaction between the two of them or if he really is stepping over the line. I also encourage you to ask why you do not like your sister-in-law. Is this dislike based on her friendship with your husband or is a personality clash? I believe it is important to work through challenges in family ties because it is those inner circle relationships which can be a source of blessing emotionally and spiritually.