Many people date individuals who do not share their relationship goals. It is tempting to hang in there, in the hopes that person will somehow see what a great catch you are and decide to pursue a committed relationship. The best course in love is to date those who share your desires for love.
Trevor Asks Nancy:
“I’ve been on several dates with a great woman I’ve been friends with for three years. I thought things were going well until I found out she’s dating two other guys. She told me that she’s just casually dating and having fun, but doesn’t want a relationship because she wants to focus on where she’ll be after graduating college. I’m wondering if I should stop seeing her or if I should just keep going and hope she changes her mind about wanting a relationship.”
It is important to date people who share your relationship goals, and clearly this woman is not in the same place as you are regarding love. She has clearly told you what she wants right now. I advise that you do stop dating her as it would not be wise to hope she will change her mind. I encourage you to guard your heart when allowing people into your inner circle, especially in love. It is good that you have learned about her intentions towards dating early on. Please do not look at her individual decision as a reflection on what you have to offer a committed relationship. She just isn’t the right person for you.