In relationships, it is important to really hear what the other person says they need from you. Many times one is so concerned and bent on getting their way, regardless of the emotional costs that “winning” leaves the relationship in a very poor state. One person cannot be everything to another. Each person in the relationship must be confident in who they are to fulfill their daily responsibilities.
Shauna Asks Nancy:
“My husband is always complaining how I restrict his freedom. I feel it’s the other way around. Naturally, we fight all the time. I hardly call him unless it’s an emergency, He complains I can’t control my urge to check on him every hour. Sometimes due to situations, I call a lot, mainly because he does not answer me. He never listens to me, so I don’t think he’ll listen if I tell him we need help. We were very good friends before we got married and really want to repair our relationship.”
It is important to look at the way you talk about your husband. You use the word “always” and “never” to describe this challenge in your marriage. When a husband does not feel his wife respects him, he does turn and rebel against the behavior he interprets as nagging, or telling him what to do. It is important that you take a look at how you really feel about him and by faith start respecting his authority as head of your household. In the world’s way of viewing love and marriage, this idea seems like bondage for a wife. It is the furtherest thing from the real truth. When you show by your actions, words and sincere love in your heart for your spouse that you honor and respect him, he in turn will treat you with the gentleness and kindness you deserve. Under God’s way of living, you will always reap a harvest wen you sow a biblical seed. To get back to that friendship, you must act like a friend to your husband. Calling him throughout the day while he is at work is not relying on the knowledge and wisdom, prudence and understanding that comes from the Lord. I encourage you to start building on every small decision you make to build on that confidence. Yes, you need to consult your spouse on major decisions, but he is counting on you to have the discernment to make wise, everyday choices on your own.