We Distrust Each Other

A relationship not based on the principles of the scripture will always reap a negative consequence. God offers each of us  opportunities to walk in His ways at any point in life. However, He does not take away the consequences of one’s actions. He does provide a new life through Jesus and will bring healing and restoration to even the most broken relationship and heart when you place your trust in Him.

Claire Asks Nancy:

My boyfriend and I have been together for 19 years. We have three children and from the outside looking in, you would think we have a wonderful life. My boyfriend has been unfaithful numerous times, which has caused me to have trust issues and insecurities. I took him back because I wanted our children to be raised in a two-parent home. The problem is, two years ago I cheated on him. He found out by tracking my phone, bugging the house and monitoring my calls and emails. He “reminds” me of it every day and we argue constantly. I’m sorry it happened, but I still have trust issues because I can’t see what he has been up to. Is this a relationship worth saving?

Nancy’s Advice:

A live-in relationship is not going to be blessed by God, so the larger picture is the spiritual battle of reaping the consequences of going against the statutes of scripture. Emotionally, the negative core belief of thinking the people you love will eventually cheat on you has manifested and proven itself in both your lives. Your relationship cannot continue on this course and improve. A new mindset must come into the hearts of both of you. The question is: Are you both committed to making your relationship work? That is the starting place and from that point you can answer your question. Without the covenant of marriage, it is impossible to bring the blessing of the Lord into the union. And without a foundation of mutual faith, lasting emotionally healing cannot take place. I encourage you to evaluate where you want to me in life and most importantly, consider the well-being of your children. Your relationship role model will determine the type of individuals they will be strong attracted to in the future, thus repeating the pattern you and your boyfriend are setting now. It will be their “norm.” A single parent household with Jesus Christ surpasses a two-parent household without Him.


About Nancy Pina

Nancy Pina is a relationship expert, author and coach with a passion to show how every individual can achieve relationship success. Her message of emotional healing based on Christian values has blessed countless individuals. Nancy has been featured in numerous national magazines including: Runner’s World, Esquire, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan and Essence. She is a frequent guest on television and radio shows and has appeared on The Today Show, Fox News and Daystar Houston.
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