What are the standards you place on love? Are you looking for the right person based on godly principles outlined in the Bible or are you reacting out of your current circumstances and needs? It is vital that you take care in love and guard your heart at all costs. Nothing good comes from choosing relationships from fear of the future.
Felicia Asks Nancy:
I’m a full-time student so I definitely need money for my expenses. This guy has expressed an interest in me to be in a long term relationship. He has offered to help financially but it seems to be conditional. I need a place to stay now but he wants me to move in with him. I’ve been in a common law relationship before but now I want to focus on my personal development. He appears to be genuine. There is a major problem: I am not attracted to him. There is also a huge issue with another guy I have been with intermittently for the past six months. I started corresponding with the new guy during one of our splits. I’m in love with the first guy but I think the second one will be able to provide a more stable environment for a family. They are both older by at least 7 years. Neither knows about the other. I’m afraid I will make the wrong decision and lose in the end.
Basing your relationship decisions on money alone is the wrong path for love. Under no circumstances should you accept financial assistance from this man whom you have no real interest in. He is attracted to you physically and is using money as an carrot stick so you will accept his conditions. I encourage you to be very careful who you let into your inner circle and into your heart. If you do not take care and guard your heart, you will find that your life goes in directions you do not want to go. Long term relationships are based on a foundation of mutual faith, love for one another, trust and respect. From what you have written, you are not really ready for a commitment and I do encourage you to take a break and evaluate why you are making heart decisions from a fearful mindset.