Marriage is worth the time and effort to save and the solution, no matter how dire things appear to be is not found outside the relationship. See how God’s grace protected Martin from making a huge mistake.
I write with a heavy heart. I have been married for 25 years. The marriage has not been good for a long time. I have tried to leave several times. I don’t think my wive has loved me for years. She is often irritable and hypercritical of me. Most of the time she is very unhappy. She sleeps most of the day.
Recently, I have been working with a young lady and have let my feeling grow for her. I have prayed to GOD daily for guidance. I felt that we had something special. I was cautious at first about letting my feeling grow for her because I knew what it would mean to my family and that my action could hurt my children. I also saw this as an opportunity to be happy again. As it turned out she is not interested in a relationship with me. I am heart broken and I feel foolish. I have been incredibly happy and low all in the same week.
This experiance has left me questioning my life and the choices I have made and continue to make. How do I go on? What should I do? I feel lost.
It is normal that you want to expect and desire an emotionally healthy, loving and nurturing relationship with your wife. The answer to receiving that is not to look for it outside your marriage. That road only leads to disaster and will not be blessed by the Lord.
Whatever barriers to love that exist in your marriage will show up in another relationship if you do not take the time to work through them. I strongly believe that when you look inwardly and focus on what you can do to improve yourself, strengthen your intimacy with Jesus and be obedient to His word, you will see a marked difference in your life. He does hear your prayers and I do know the answers are all within the pages of your Bible.
From the little you have shared about your wife, it does appear she is depressed. Has she received any help in this area? To receive what you want in marriage, it is important that you are giving into the marriage what you are seeking. My advice to you is to fight for your family. Every relationship has challenges but can be healed with God’s grace and your commitment to obey His word as head of your household.
I understand you are in a lonely place, however the answer is within you – not outside your marriage.